I have repeatedly heard from homosexuals insisting their relationships are based on love; I find just the opposite in God's word...
We will start with Matthew 15:19-20 to understand where this sexual sin is birthed, "for out of the heart proceed evil thoughts, murders, adulteries, fornications, thefts, false witness, blasphemies: these are the things which defile a man." These words are spoken by the Lord Jesus Himself as to what defiles, we focus on the origin...the heart. In the original language heart means 'thoughts, feelings, the mind; the seat of everything: of the soul so far as it is affected and stirred in a bad or good way, the soul/mind as the seat of sensibilities, affections, emotions, desires, appetites, passions'. This is evidence sin is birthed in the thoughtlife. We now focus on fornication, which translates 'adultery, homosexuality, lesbianism, illicit sexual intercourse'. In Christ's own words, homosexuality and lesbianism are a defiling act which means 'unclean, pollute, to make profane, render unhallowed'. If homosexuality and lesbianism are defiling, how can it be called love?
The clearest picture on what homosexuality is based on is found in Romans 1:26-27, 'for this reason God gave them up to dishonorable passions: for their women exchanged natural (produced by nature, inborn) relations for those that are contrary to nature; and the men likewise gave up natural relations with women and were consumed (to set on fire, to be kindled) with passion (lust-excitement of the mind, a longing after, desire, craving for) for another, men committing shameless acts with men and receiving in themselves the due penalty for their error'. Here we see what happens when sinners suppress the truth of God's word, He lets men go headlong into sin, turning them over to what they desire most by not restraining their unbridled passions: the result is moral decay. What comes natural has now been shunned for what is contrary to nature, what was instilled at birth has now been exchanged for a forbidden lust. So if at birth, we were instilled with what comes natural, how is it the homosexual claims they were born that way? The only answer is they choose to follow their own lustful desires, which is what God's word proclaims.
Here lies the key to what homosexuals base their relationships on...lust. Their relationships are fueled by a burning desire that consumes and drives them. This is the reason for turbulence in these types of relationships, they are like wild animals who stalk their prey, launch their attack and conquer. Lust is never satisfied, it must be fed over and over and over; it does not care who or what must be conquered to satisfy. It does not feel love for its prey, it only thinks of 'self' and consumes the homosexual to repeatedly feed his/her craving. Love, on the other hand, is giving and is made manifest in doing for others, especially husbands towards wives and wives towards husbands. The intimacy of love between a husband and wife is one of giving, not taking; to please another and not self: it is filled with a trusting heart as well as tenderness and faithfulness. Love is God's gift between a man and a woman, lust is a result of rejecting true love with a desire to only please 'self'.
"Afresh, precious, precious Jesus, I resign this body to You, for doing or suffering, for living or dying. Will You accept it? Will You use me for Your glory more than heretofore, that You may have some little return for all the benefits You have done to me? Oh, do grant this request; my heart longs for it, my spirit pleads for it; and "if You will, You can." You know the hot temptation of which I am the subject. Bring Your glory out of it, and keep me from the evil, and it shall be well." - Ruth Bryan